friend's experience and mine

I understand why you see your friends' relationships that way. I understand that after facing a hard world, you want your relationship to be a place where you feel safe, calm, and at peace. I don't disagree with wanting that.

But I also believe that peace doesn't always mean never having arguments. Sometimes two people can love each other deeply and still have misunderstandings, different feelings, or moments where they hurt each other. What matters to me is what we do after that, whether we try to understand each other, take responsibility, and choose to become better together.

I have seen couples who went through difficult moments, said things they regretted, and still stayed because at the end of the day they still cared about each other and didn't want to lose what they built.

I don't want us to keep hurting each other or living in constant stress. I want peace with you too. But my hope is that we don't measure our relationship only by how many arguments we have. I hope we also look at how much we care, how we try, and whether we are both willing to choose each other when things are not easy...