“I lied because I didn’t want it to become an issue,”
it often means they were trying to avoid conflict, discomfort, guilt, or a difficult conversation. That explains why they lied, but it does not automatically make the lie harmless. A relationship can survive mistakes, but trust changes when honesty changes.
But if lying becomes the “solution” every time conflict appears, then the relationship slowly becomes built on managing reactions instead of understanding each other.
Also, it’s important to look at both sides gently:
..Some people lie because they are manipulative.
..Some people lie because they are scared of disappointing someone.
..Some people lie because every discussion turns into a fight, so they avoid truth to keep peace.
None of those make lying “good,” but the reason matters when deciding whether trust can heal.
--- waitt blog... ermm... if a person started to lied at first place and *dare* means the person doesn't value the partner at all. huuu
