if love is supposed to feel this heavy,
or if fear simply grew beside it.
You wonder
whether your hands are holding a future
or only gathering the broken pieces
someone else left behind.
And still..
you stay gentle.
Still,
you learn his sadness,
memorize his silence,
love him in places
someone once abandoned.
But darling,
do not forget this:
you were never born
to become a replacement
for another woman’s mistakes.
You are not a bandage.
Not a distraction.
Not a temporary warmth
for winter loneliness.
You are a person
with a heart soft enough to love
and brave enough to question it.
And maybe that is what a good woman truly is
someone who loves deeply
without disappearing inside it.
Dear me,
I know you are scared.
Scared that one day he might wake up missing the life he once had. Scared that you are loving someone who is still carrying ghosts from his past. Scared that your love might not be enough to make someone stay.
But listen carefully:
Love is not proven by how much pain you can survive for another person.
You do not have to become smaller, quieter, or endlessly understanding just to deserve certainty. A healthy love should not leave you constantly questioning whether you are temporary.
Maybe he truly loves you. Maybe he is trying his best after being hurt. But your feelings matter too. Your fears deserve kindness, not silence.
Do not punish yourself for overthinking when your heart is simply trying to protect itself. And if one day this love hurts you, it will not mean you were foolish for loving sincerely. Loving genuinely is never embarrassing. It is one of the bravest things a person can do.
Please remember: you are not hard to love. You are not “just another girl.” And you should never have to compete with memories from someone else’s past.
The right love will not make you beg for reassurance every night. Until then, keep choosing yourself too.
With softness,
you♡
